Ah Yes, Submission!

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Submitting isn’t usually an issue on a day-to-day basis. It seems, however, to become an issue when we are not in agreement with our husband’s decisions. Let’s take a look at what we are being asked to do:

Submit: To yield, resign or surrender to the power, will or authority of another;

Subject: 1. Placed or situate under. 2. Being under the power and dominion of another;

Let’s take a look at a corporation with a CEO, President, Vice President, etc. The CEO has the final word in the decision process. The President leads the corporation and the Vice President acts in place of the President when he is not present. However, the Vice President does not change the corporate laws and regulations set in place. For example, if the corporation (where the CEO has signed off on it) has agreed to purchase a new mega telephone server, the Vice President can’t undo this when the President goes out of town without first checking with the President, who then in turn checks with the CEO. Does that make sense? Both offices submit to the CEO, in essence. I hope you’re following me as I am going to make a point here. 🙂

The home is very much like a corporation. The Lord Jesus Christ is the CEO of the home, along with His Word. The husband is the President and the wife is the Vice President. The President checks with the CEO (the Lord Jesus through His Word and prayer) for decisions that need to be made for his home. When those decisions are in line with God’s Word, the Vice President does not have authority to simply go her own way or do her own thing. She must submit to her husband and the Lord Jesus.

Why does the world understand this submission in the corporate environment yet a wife cannot in a Christian home? She is not the leader … period. She does not make the final decisions for the home … period. Her husband does not submit to her authority … period. Finally, the Lord Jesus does not change His Word to accommodate a wife’s rebellion.

Which is it in your home, dear Christian lady? Do you have a godly husband who loves the Lord and strives to obey Him? Be thankful! There are Christian wives out there who are married to unbelievers or disobedient husbands that would give their eye teeth to be in your shoes! Don’t take his leadership lightly. Christ ordained marriage and its roles for a purpose. Do to otherwise is to live in rebellion to God’s Word and, therefore, be open to chastisement from the Lord. If your home is filled with strife, take a step back and do inventory on your role as the Vice President (helpmeet) of your home.


A Call to Action


~Colossians 3:23-24 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

As parents, we can see life through our children, can’t we? For example, you tell your children to go clean up their rooms. One child stomps his foot on the floor and cleans his room but with a lot of attitude. The other one immediately does as he is told and does a great job. It’s not difficult for you to see which child brought much joy to you at this point, right?

It is no different with Christians. How many of us serve the Lord grudgingly? How many wives are out there cleaning their house and doing laundry but with much resentment in her heart?  How many of us serve Him because we love Him and are delighted to serve Him? When we serve Christ with gladness of heart, it is a testimony to the unbeliever… right down to cleaning and laundry 🙂 They see our joy for themselves and it attracts them. They want what we have – the joy of the Lord!

Won’t you serve the Lord with gladness today?

How Are You Building Your Home?

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. (Pro 14:1)

How I love Noah Webster’s definition of the word build:

1. To construct, rest or depend on as a foundation;

The wise woman of Proverb 14:1 constructed her home which rested and depended upon the Foundation. This verse was not speaking of us actually constructing and building our own houses in the physical sense. This verse says that the wise woman here was constructing her house on the foundation of the Lord. This woman knew full well that this foundation would never move. Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity. (2 Tim. 2:19)

Ah, God’s foundation stands sure, ladies. His foundation does not move. His foundation does not crumble under the pressures of the world. His foundation won’t even form a slight crack – it is Perfect! What comfort for the wise woman.

2 Tim. 2:19 goes on to say that the Lord knows those that are His!! I don’t know about you, but I’m doing an alleluiah dance here! God knows me! If I am building my house on His foundation, I will be leading my household to Him and He will know them as well.

2 Tim. 2:19 does not stop there either. The Lord tells us that we must depart from sin since the Father knows us. We must be sinning less and less in our spiritual walks – not staying the same – not going backward – but walking forward and sinning less. Yes, we’re going to stumble – yes we’re going to sin, but the key is not to remain in that condition. Did David remain in his sinful condition? Did Peter? God gave us examples in His Word so that we could learn and grow from their experiences. Both these men repented of their sin and moved forward doing great things for God. Are you sinning just as much today as your yesterdays? If so, why? You should be examining yourselves, ladies. We ought not to be this way.

Notice the last half of Prov. 14:1, “…but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Have you ever watched someone pluck a chicken? It’s not done all at once. It’s an arduous process at best, feather by feather. The chicken’s skin doesn’t appear all at once – but bit by bit, the skin is exposed. I also thought of the blood that comes out of the pore that bore the feather. The process of plucking does not go without causing pain or shedding blood. God is so Awesome, ladies. He puts a word like plucketh into a verse so that we can glean from the visual picture it portrays! Each time the foolish woman tears down her home bit by bit, she is causing pain and shedding blood – maybe not in the physical sense, but in the spiritual sense.

What do you suppose the foolish woman is doing to pluck her home down with her own hands? Noah Webster defines the foolish as:

5. In scripture, wicked; sinful; acting without regard to the divine law and glory, or to one’s own eternal happiness.

Soooo, this foolish woman does not care for the spiritual matters of her household. I was thinking of only an unsaved woman before I meditated on this a bit more. I changed my thinking – I believe this could also be referring to a woman who is saved but not looking well to the spiritual and physical needs of her family. Her actions and testimony tear down this house.

Wives and mothers are responsible for setting the “tone” in our homes. What kind of tone are you setting in your home? Does your family know you love the Lord? Is it evident in your walk with Him? Do they see you in the Word? Do your actions show that you are in the Word? If not, you’re quenching the Holy Spirit and not bearing His fruit. Don’t be like the foolish woman. Take heed from this warning in Proverbs. Don’t pluck your home down with your own hands! Instead, be like the wise woman whose home is built on the Foundation of Christ and her goal is to keep adding to that foundation with her words, her testimony and her love 😀

Dear God…
Let my actions build my home
Let them not be foolish but wise
May I glorify You in all my ways
So your Name will be lifted high!

Boring Life?

Colossians 3:23-24 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

Do your mundane day-to-day tasks go unnoticed, dear lady?  Does the lack of recognition go unnoticed by your children and your husband?  Sometimes we think that we are just a maid or an event organizer and that there’s nothing worth eternal blessings about what we do.  But that’s where you’re wrong!

It’s not so much what we do, but how we do them.  Do you do your laundry and housework only to get recognition?  If so, you will be disappointed.  Some day, someone will forget to say thank you and that is what will drive you to being unhappy.  Instead, do all your tasks for the LORD and today’s Scripture promises that you will receive a reward for your faithfulness to Him.  He has given us a husband and children for us to care for and when we do so with the attitude that we are serving Christ, then we will have joy!  Our reward is going to be eternal 🙂


The Tongue of a Wise Woman

~Proverbs 15:1-2 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. (1) The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. (2)

I think we have all been through one of those arguments with our dear husbands where we know that he is wrong but he doesn’t know that he is wrong! 🙂 Yes, we can chuckle at this statement but what do we do as submissive wives during times like these?

Today’s verses tell us what to do. I have used these verses and applied them to my relationship with my beloved. After I remained quiet and didn’t try to prove my point, I discovered that God had the opportunity to work in the situation.How many times do we step in and have things work out horribly?!

If I had “fought back,” God would not have been able to show His glory. More times than not, when I apply Proverbs 15:1-2 in my conversations/arguments with my beloved, the Lord works it out and works in my husband’s heart. When I jump the gun, I don’t give the Lord the opportunity to work in the situation and I make it worse.

I hope that makes sense to ya’ll 🙂 Try to apply these two verses today with your beloved. God honors His Word!

Ulterior Motives

Luke 10:38-42 Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word. 40 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me. 41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: 42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.

I’ve read so many messages and devotionals about Mary and Martha, many of which were excellent! 🙂 Here we have two sisters who must have been very close to one another because they were living together, along with their brother, Lazarus. They were dear friends of Jesus.

But in my readings today, I noticed something different about Mary and Martha. Notice in verse 39 – “Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word.” Mary ALSO sat at Jesus’ feet tells me that Martha sat at Christ’s feet as well. What made that day any different?

Luke 10:40 answers my question. Martha was “cumbered about much serving.” Martha allowed those everyday things to interfere with her time at Jesus’ feet. She chose to let these earthly cares take precedence over her spiritual life. Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines cumber as:

To perplex or embarrass; to distract or trouble.

Martha was distracted and troubled about the work she was doing. She probably allowed her labor of love to turn into a burden. When I’m baking something special for my husband, I do it with much love. I’m so anxious for him to come home from work to taste what I’ve worked hard to do just for him. Martha’s thoughts were consumed by the work itself and she forgot for whom she was doing the work. (I Corinthians 10:31)

I also found something else interesting about Luke 10:40. I don’t know about you, but I am more comfortable saying what is on my mind to my brother or sister than with anyone else I know. I am more apt to speak freely with them. Then why in the world would Martha not go to her sister to complain about being alone in the kitchen? If it were me, I would have gone to my sister and said, “Hey, come one now, I’m doing all the work! Come in the kitchen and help me so I can sit down as well!” Wouldn’t you?

So why would Martha chose to go to the Lord and ask Him to tell Mary to help her? Don’t you find that strange, as well? Could it be that Martha wanted Jesus to see all that she was doing so she could get the credit for all her work? Do you think she wanted Jesus to notice all that she had done? Jesus saw right through that, I believe. His response was that of great love for a friend, yet He cut to the heart of Martha’s problem. He said, “Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:” Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines “careful” in this manner:

Full of care; anxious; solicitous.

He also defines “solicitous” as:

Careful; anxious; very desirous, as to obtain something. Men are often more solicitous to obtain the favor of their king or of the people, than of their Maker.

Wow, that opens up the picture I was trying to paint here, in my opinion. Martha wanted recognition for her work – not unlike the Pharisees when they stood in the market place praying for all to see. But the Lord was kind. He knew her heart and He did not treat her as He did the Pharisees. Notice He did not call her a viper as He did them? He loved her and He wanted to help her and teach her.

What did Christ teach Martha? He pointed out her sin and then showed her what to do by explaining to her that the needful thing for her was to choose the better thing, which was to sit and learn at His feet. Yes, you and I have a lot of work to do in our homes. In fact, it’s never ending 🙂 But am I like Martha? Do I do the work with ulterior motives in mind? Do I want recognition for all that I do? I should do all things for His glory, including my housework!

Another lesson learned for me is that I start my day at the feet of the Lord Jesus. I need my daily spiritual bread to strengthen my arms to make me ready for my day! I must chose what is needful and that good part which will never be taken away from me.


Taking Time

~Revelation 1:3 Blessed is he that readeth, and they that hear the words of this prophecy, and keep those things which are written therein: for the time is at hand.

The Apostle John exhorted the believers not only to read this “difficult” book of the Bible but also to hear what God had to say.  Moreover, he did not stop there. He added the little word keep in the latter part of the verse. We can’t just read and hear but we must keep and not part with what God has taught us. Noah Webster defines the word “keep” as:

To hold; to retain in one’s power or possession; not to lose or part with; as, to keep a house or a farm; to keep any thing in the memory, mind or heart.

Anyone can read and anyone can hear. But not just anyone can keep in their hearts the Scriptures they have learned. Keeping denotes an act of hanging onto the doctrine that we have learned and not departing from it.  When we keep, or hang onto a doctrine we have learned, it means we are practicing it.  You’ve heard the old saying, “You can’t just talk the talk, you have to walk the walk!” A person who puts into practice what he has been taught is truly a disciple of God’s Word. That is why it is important to study the Bible and get the meat that God wants us to grow by.

This is so important that God speaks of it twice in Revelation:

~Revelation 22:7 Behold, I come quickly: blessed is he that keepeth the sayings of the prophecy of this book.

We don’t have much time left. Read, hear and keep what God has given to you as you do your Bible studies. What are you doing with those verses that you are reading or hearing preached? Do you share them with your children? Do you share them with your husband? Do you apply them to your heart? Place those verses and blessings around your home – post it notes on the mirrors or index cards on the refrigerator 🙂 Are you abiding by what God has taught you? This is how the believer grows in Christ.