Guard Your Husband

Gen. 3:17 And unto Adam he said , Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee , saying , Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

Married women tend to think that it’s a husband’s job to guard his wife and his family and rightfully so. However, have you ever stopped to think of the influence you have over your husband’s decisions? I’m sure Eve didn’t stop to think about it. Had she done so, we would still be living in the Garden of Eden.

Man’s weakness is his wife. It’s evident in today’s Scriptures for we see that Adam “hearkened” to the voice of his wife and look where it got him! Noah Webster defines the word “hearken” as:

HE’ARKEN, verb intransitive h’arken.

1. To listen; to lend the ear; to attend to what is uttered, with eagerness or curiosity.

The furies hearken and their snakes uncurl.

2. To attend; to regard; to give heed to what is uttered; to observe or obey.

Hearken, O Israel, to the statutes and the judgments which I teach you. Deuteronomy 4:1.

3. To listen; to attend; to grant or comply with.

Hearken thou to the supplication of thy servant.

l Kings 8.

Two of the three definitions show that the result of listening was: giving heed to, observe, obey, grant or comply with.

How many times have you swayed your husband’s decision your way as Eve did Adam? We women must realize that our interference can have lifelong effects. I’m sure had Eve known what was to happen, she would not have done so, don’t you think? Christian wife, you have a stronghold over your husband and it’s your duty to protect him from your selfish ideas. Eve succumbed to the devil’s temptations – she saw and coveted, she listened to ungodly logic from the enemy and then convinced her husband. Wow!

We must recognize the order God designed for the family. Adam was still held responsible for his own decision, even though he tried to blame Eve. For that matter, Eve tried to blame the serpent so blame shifting was the natural reaction. Christian women need to recognize that our very words and intentions must be centered in Christ and His word so we don’t cause our husbands to make the wrong decision which will ultimately impact us!

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Where’s Your Strength

Proverbs 24:10 If thou faint in the day of adversity, thy strength is small.

Where do you draw your strength from when hard times fall on you, dear lady?  Do you draw strength from your husband?  Do you draw strength from your friends?  Although they are good options, they should not be the first source you go to.

Psalms 84:5 Blessed is the man whose strength is in thee; in whose heart are the ways of them.

The Lord God should be our main source for strength.  He should be the first one we turn to when times get rough.  Can you imagine what kind of testimony that would be to your husband (especially if he is unsaved) and your friends?  They would see that you are not easily shaken by circumstances.  They would see that you are not sucked into the “drama de jour” but you turn to your God and allow Him to do a work in your heart.  What work? The work of peach which no one can understand but the Christian who walks closely with Him!

Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

If the Lord is not the first one you turn to, there is a great need in your spiritual walk for growth in this area. Practice makes perfect! 🙂

Complainer?

Numbers 11:1 And when the people complained, it displeased the LORD: and the LORD heard it; and his anger was kindled; and the fire of the LORD burnt among them, and consumed them that were in the uttermost parts of the camp.

What does God think about complaining?  Today’s verses make it quite clear, don’t they? This is not a sin that is only known to kids and teenagers.  It is quite common in adults as well. There’s nothing I hate more than to hear some complaining about the situations in their life. It bothers me even more when it is another Christian. Complaining causes us to forget the good that God has done for us. It causes us to forget His blessings!

Are you a complainer, dear lady? Does your husband get an ear full when you aren’t happy with the way things are going in your home?  Notice what the verse above says?  Let’s pick it apart:  the complaining “displeased” God – He “heard” it – His anger was “stirred” – then He “destroyed” them.  Do you get the idea that God doesn’t like to hear complaining? It’s one thing to go to God with a problem and tell Him about it.  I’m certain this isn’t what is being referenced in today’s text.  In this case, the people were complaining to each other. The sin was not revolving around one person but a group of people. Trouble comes in numbers – you don’t see a street gang of one person.  Do you constantly complain to your husband or friends when things aren’t going well?  If you do, then you are no different that the complainers in Moses’ time.  God doesn’t like it at all (and neither does your husband) and He considers it quite serious. If you want your life to go well, then stop complaining and start being grateful for what he has provided for you.

Numbers 11:4-6 And the mixt multitude that was among them fell a lusting: and the children of Israel also wept again, and said, Who shall give us flesh to eat? 5 We remember the fish, which we did eat in Egypt freely; the cucumbers, and the melons, and the leeks, and the onions, and the garlick: 6 But now our soul is dried away: there is nothing at all, beside this manna, before our eyes.

The sin of complaining doesn’t stop with the one complaint.  It leads to other sins – in this case, it was lust! Notice that the people dwelt on their troubles so much so that they began wishing for their old life.  The woman who dwells on her current trials and disappointments will begin to think that the grass is greener on the other side.  She will think “Life before salvation wasn’t so bad.”  Oh the tragedy of it all!  Is it any wonder that God destroyed them?  One rotten apple spoils the whole barrel of apples.  One little bit of yeast will cause all of the dough to rise. (1 Cor. 5:6) What God is saying is that the leaven (yeast) is like sin. Once you start, it brings more sin into your life. The more sin in your life, the more you will become discontent with your life.

If you’re not a complainer and you’ve conquered this sin, then praise the Lord!  Teach it to your children – counsel your friends and help them conquer the sin as well – be an example to those around you and use every opportunity to teach them when complaints arise.

Submission and Obedience

One cannot be submissive without obedience – one cannot be obedient without being submissive. They go hand-in-hand, don’t they?

Our children are commanded to obey. We are commanded to obey God. We are commanded to submit ourselves to God. Woman are commanded to submit themselves to their own husbands. We can glean much if we read verses dealing with this topic and applying it to our lives. If we practice true biblical obedience and submission, how can an unsaved husband or disobedient husband to the Word help but see God’s goodness through our actions? If we, as wives, are not obedient and submissive to our husbands, how can we expect our children to be obedient to us? If we’re not practicing what we preach to our children, are we not hypocrites?

But if ye will not obey the voice of the LORD, but rebel against the commandment of the LORD, then shall the hand of the LORD be against you, as it was against your fathers. (1Sa 12:15)

When we know that God wants us to do something, yet we don’t do it, we are being disobedient. We are sinning. Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. (Jam 4:17) Therefore, if God tells us to submit to our own husbands in all things, and we don’t submit in one little area, are we not sinning?

And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. (1Sa 15:22) We can play the game of sacrifice all we want, but if we disobey in one area, we are not a delight to the Lord. Let’s say my husband tells me to do something I don’t want to do. Instead I make up for it by going the extra mile in doing other things for him – that is the game of sacrifice rather than obedience. I may have all the warm fuzzy feelings in the world because I did all those extra things for him, but I did not do what he asked me to do.

But this thing commanded I them, saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you. (Jer 7:23) When we obey, God says it will be well with us. We will have peace in our homes and foremost in our hearts. Women are emotional creatures. God made us that way. If we are trying to be a yielded vessel to God, we know automatically when we are not doing right. We do not have that peace that our actions are what God wants. We lie to our own selves when we say that we are doing the “right” thing yet we know it is not our husband’s will.

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. (Col 3:20) Don’t expect your children to obey you if you don’t obey/submit to your husband. Your children do not have to witness your unsubmissive spirit – it will be evident in other ways and you will reap with disobedient children. When your children are disobedient, look inward – examine yourself first. Are you a submissive wife? If you are, then deal with your children accordingly. If you’re not, then deal with yourself accordingly. Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. (Gal 6:7)

Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God: (Col 3:22) Obedience and submission is such an important lesson for us to learn. Without it, there is chaos. That is the reason the world is in the shape it’s in. We have lost our singleness of heart (purity of heart – separation) and our fear of God. We do not see our disobedience as sin. We think we know better or have more wisdom than our husband. But the Word does not say to submit only when we think it’s right.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; (1 Pe 3:1) Why would Peter say this? The “conversation” of a meek and submissive wife speaks volumes to her unsaved or disobedient husband. He does not need the Word. He sees the Word in action by her submission!

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Eph 5:22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (Col 3:18 ) Twice Paul commands the wives to submit their own husbands. Take notice and obey. To do otherwise, is sin.

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (Jam 4:7) When we submit ourselves to our husbands, we are submitting to God’s will for our lives – as unto the Lord. God did not create us to rule our homes. No matter if we could do a better job than our husbands can, it is not our place to rule and go against his wishes. We do not have the God-given wisdom and discernment that God gives to men. We were made to nurtur, not lead. We women are emotional and do not base our decisions on logic as a man does. The devil will whisper in our ear and say that we know better but we should not succumb. We are to resist the devil – submit ourselves to God by submitting ourselves to our husbands.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Eph 5:33) The word reverence is only ever used in Scriptures as it relates to God, a king, superiors or our husbands. That should tell you something. Noah Webster says reverence means:

…to regard with fear mingled with respect and affection. We reverence superiors for their age, their authority and their virtues. We ought to reverence parents and upright judges and magistrates. We ought to reverence the Supreme Being, his word and his ordinances.

If a woman willingly submits to her husband, she reverences him. She shows him that she gives him the respect he rightly deserves. He should not receive it only when he earns it – his position as husband and head of your home says he deserves reverence. This is God appointed and God commanded. Without this order, there is chaos in the home.

Godly submission, obedience and reverence are our goals in life, ladies. We are to practice, practice, practice! When you go against your husband’s wishes, can you honestly admit that your heart and your home are at peace? Honestly? If you are experiencing strife in your home, look to your heart first and see if you are being the submissive wife God has commanded you to be. Only then will you know for sure. If you’re not, repent and ask forgiveness from God and from your dear husband.

If you are submitting to your husband as unto the Lord, God will give you grace during your trial and will provide for every need you have. He does not forsake us!!!

Thankfulness

Sing unto the LORD; for he hath done excellent things: this is known in all the earth. (Isa 12:5)

The world publishes beautiful graphics of God’s creation – they give intricate details of migration, feeding, flight, etc. But is God given thanks by these same people? They are busy thinking it is due to the process of evolution.

This is where we Christians fail every day. Isaiah tells us to sing unto God and thank Him. Even better, let the earth hear you! We have so much for which to be thankful! Not only has the Lord given us His beautiful creation to look at, but He has given us countless blessings in our lives. Sometimes we must look for the blessings but they are there. It is God’s will for us to be thankful. The average Christian does not think along these lines but the Word of God says so. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. (1 Thess 5:18 ) (Emphasis mine.)

Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving… Psalm 95:2a There is no better way to start off your devotional time with the Lord than with giving thanks for everything. I just love this piece – I’ve never found out who actually wrote it, but it shows you just how you don’t have to look far to find God’s blessings in your life. If any of you happen to know who the Author of this wonderful piece is, please let me know so I can give proper credit.

Thank You Lord!

Lord, thank you for this sink of dirty dishes; we have plenty of food to eat.

Thank you for this pile of dirty, stinky laundry; we have plenty of nice clothes to wear.

And I would like to thank you, Lord, for those unmade beds; they were so warm and comfortable last night. I know that many have no bed.

My thanks to you, Lord, for this bathroom, complete with all the splattered mirrors, soggy, grimy towels and dirty lavatory; they are so convenient.

Thank you for this finger-smudged refrigerator that needs cleaning. It has served us faithfully for many years. It is full of cold drinks and enough leftovers for two or three meals.

Thank you, Lord, for this oven that absolutely must be cleaned today; It has baked so many things over the years.

The whole family is grateful for that tall grass that we all enjoy in the yard. My kids are healthy and able to run and play.

Lord, the presence of all these chores awaiting me says You have richly blessed my family. I shall do them cheerfully and I shall do them gratefully.

Even though I clutch my blanket and growl when the alarm rings, thank you, Lord, that I can hear. There are many who are deaf.

Even though I keep my eyes closed against the morning light as long as possible, thank you, Lord, that I can see. Many are blind.

Even though I huddle in my bed and put off rising, thank you, Lord, that I have the strength to rise. There are many who are bedridden.

Even though the first hour of my day is hectic, when socks are lost, toast is burned and tempers are short, my children are so loud, thank you, Lord, for my family. There are many who are lonely.

Even though our breakfast table never looks like the pictures in magazines and the menu is at times not balanced, thank you Lord, there are many who are hungry.

Even though the routine of my job is often monotonous, thank you, Lord, for the opportunity to work. There are many who have no job.

Even though I grumble and bemoan my fate from day to day and wish my circumstances were not so modest, thank you, Lord, for life.

I can’t help but think that God smiles from ear-to-ear when He hears this woman’s words in the mornings! She has learned the art of being thankful and finding God’s blessings at every turn in her life. What are you thankful for today?

Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; Eph. 5:20

The Clamorous Woman

Prov. 9:13 “A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.”

Proverbs is such a great book – full of instruction and wisdom! Why, then, is its wise counsel not heeded? I think each of us knows someone who fits the description of the lady of Proverbs 9:13. I know I do!

I looked up clamorous in Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary and I must say that it was more than what I thought it meant, which was noisy!

CLAMOROUS, a. Speaking and repeating loud words; noisy; vociferous; loud; turbulent.

Now that it’s put that way, can you imagine living with someone like this? Better yet, are you that someone?

Someone I know quite well is exactly like this. A dear friend of mine lives next door to someone who fits this description perfectly. These women probably have no clue that they are this way – or they probably don’t care. Solomon says that these women are not only loud but repetitious! That means they are naggers and complainers and they do it loudly! I don’t know about you but I truly do not want to be known as a clamorous woman! Nor do I think a man would want to live with one either.

Solomon goes on to say that the clamorous woman is simple and knows nothing. Why do you think he said that? I’m sure it had nothing to do with how smart she was. Noah Webster defined “simple” as being weak in intellect. In fact, the lady I personally know is quite intelligent. However, I believe Solomon means that the clamorous woman is simple in the Word of God. You can “know” an instruction but it does not mean that you have applied it to your life. Any believer who spends daily time in the Word seeking the Holy Spirit’s will is going to be convicted of sin in their lives. So, obviously, this woman does not make the Word part of her daily life. If she does, then she is most certainly quenching the Holy Spirit.

I surely feel badly for the man who is married to such a woman. I think of another Proverb, “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” (Pro 25:24) How sad it is when a women is so prideful that she does not allow the Holy Spirit to work in her life.

The Lord has much reward in store for the woman who can be taught. Let’s look at the flip side of Proverb 9:13 – the exact opposite “A prudent woman is quiet: she is wise, and knoweth the will of God.” Are you this woman? Or, instead, are you the Proverbs 9:13 woman? Why would you want to be known as a clamorous woman? Won’t you allow the Holy Spirit to teach you?

Dear God…
Help me to see myself as You do
Each wicked sin and weakness reveal
Show me in Your Word and please grow me
So my broken spirit will be healed

The Corner of the Housetop

mancorner(Proverbs 21:9) and (Proverbs 25:24) [It is] better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

(Proverbs 21:19) [It is] better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Most of us don’t recognize all of our own weaknesses.  We may recognize some, but the ones that are the most prevalent in our lives are usually not the ones we do recognize.  How very sad!  Today’s Bible verses and photo act as a reminder from God that our “attitude” at home is important.  Our attitude does in fact affect those around us, especially our husbands.  We tend to be more cautious around our children but we “let our guard” down when it comes to our husbands.  It should not be so, however.

Every believer is promised peace by the Lord Jesus Christ.  John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.  Christ provides us internal peace – a peace which surpasses all understanding! Amen?  We do not have to worry about where we will spend eternity.  That kind of peace should be reflected in our attitude, don’t you think?  Can someone who possesses this peace of Christ have a contentious or brawling attitude?

When a saved wife behaves contentiously or brawls with her husband, she not only robs herself of the peace that God promises her but she robs her husband of that peace as well.  He has to constantly be on his guard – he has to live with the thought that once he gets off work, he has to go home to that kind of wife! 😦  How sad is that???

The picture above shows us a man who is sitting on the roof.  Looking at this in light of today’s devotional, we could imagine that he is trying to get as far away from his wife as possible.  Sadly, not only is he removing his “body” as far from her as possible, but his heart will eventually do the same.

If you are a contentious wife, learn from your sin and change – repent!  Stop disobeying the Holy Spirit and yield yourself as a broken vessel to Him and allow Him to change you from the inside out.  That peace that Christ wants you to have will once again reside in your heart 🙂  Your husband will be happy, too!

(Prov 21:11) When the scorner is punished, the simple is made wise: and when the wise is instructed, he receiveth knowledge.